This Holiday Season, Check On Your Loved Ones — It Matters More Than Anything
The holidays can look picture-perfect on social media — twinkling lights, smiling faces, and full tables — but behind that glow, many people feel isolated, stressed, or overwhelmed. A single message, call, or visit can cut through that loneliness in a way few things can. It’s a small action with an outsized impact. Signs someone might be struggling - Sudden withdrawal from usual activities, friends, or family. - Changes in sleep, appetite, or mood that persist for weeks. - Expressions of hopelessness, guilt, or talk about being a burden. - Missed messages, canceled plans, or reluctance to make future ones. Spotting any of these doesn’t mean you must solve everything — it means you should reach out. Simple, practical ways to check in - Send a thoughtful text: a specific question (“How are you feeling today?”) beats a vague “How are you?” - Make a quick call — hearing a familiar voice can shift someone’s day. - Drop off a small treat or a handwritten note if you live nearby. - Invite them to a low-pressure activity: a walk, coffee, or running an errand together. - Offer practical help: cooking a meal, babysitting, or helping with holiday shopping. Concrete offers are easier to accept than “Let me know if you need anything.” What to say when someone opens up Start by listening. Let them speak without immediately offering solutions. Use validating phrases: “That sounds really hard” or “I’m glad you told me.” Ask whether they’re safe and, if appropriate, encourage professional help. If someone expresses suicidal thoughts, don’t leave them alone — call emergency services or a crisis line in your area and stay with them until help arrives. Reaching out across distance Geography shouldn’t be a barrier. Schedule regular video calls, send voice notes, or use group chats to create a sense of togetherness. Coordinate virtual events — a holiday movie night, trivia, or a shared playlist — so people who can’t be physically present still feel included. Pay attention to the caregivers Family members and friends who care for others often carry heavy emotional and physical loads. Check in on them, too. Offer respite, bring groceries, or simply acknowledge how hard their work is. A little recognition can restore energy and remind them they’re not alone. When to involve professionals If someone shows signs of severe depression, self-harm, or intent to harm others, seek immediate help. Connect them with a mental health professional, their primary care provider, or crisis services. If you don’t know where to start, local health departments and community centers often have resources and referral lists. Small moments, big difference Remember: consistency matters more than grand gestures. Weekly messages, routine calls, and small check-ins create a safety net over time. The holidays are a powerful reminder to see one another, but the care we offer should extend year-round. Take action today Reach out to one person right now — a text, a call, or a knock on the door. Your check-in might be the moment they needed to feel seen and supported. If this resonated, please share this post to remind others: a little attention can change a life.